The beginning of my fatherhood journey
The journey into fatherhood is different for everyone. My journey with fatherhood began with triplets. Like many, my story starts with my wife and I wanting to have children. After three years of trying, nothing happened.
Like many couples who struggle to have children, my wife went to the doctor. During that time, we had conversations about how far, medically, we were willing to go to have children. What if we could not have children? This question stirred a serious talk about adoption as a viable possibility.
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We began some medication, and were warned that we could have multiples with this medication. We were told not to worry, as the chances were less than 1%. It just does not happen on this dosage.
At the same time, we called the church to pray for us. At the time, only a few knew the challenges we were having. The pastor, elders, and others laid hands on my wife and prayed over us.
It turned out, we were the 1% and my wife got pregnant. Was it the drugs, was it the prayer or both? I do not know. I am not going to say either way, except, “Thank you Jesus”.
A few weeks later, through an ultrasound, we would come to find out that there were three heartbeats. When we shared the information with our doctor, He said, “No that can’t be, this does not happen.” He went off to get the records of the ultrasound, and sure enough there were three babies.
In my fatherhood journey, we went from zero to three children in one day.
I had many question as to how was I going to do this? What did it mean to be a father? As I entered fatherhood, it was exciting, challenging, scary, and joyful. I would learn once again, but in a different way my need to trust God for provision. God would teach us great lessons in the years ahead. In a way, these three children have become God makers in my life.
Like in life, I did not have all the answers or enough money. However, I put one foot in front of the other, and trusted God to guide my steps. The early weeks were not without some scary moments, but we made it through.
To the new Fathers, I would say look to God the Father and how he guides his children. Seek out community and keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, as you put one foot in front of the other.
This is my fatherhood journey. How did your journey begin? What questions do you have about being a father?