Pre-marriage Counselling: What is it all About?

ring on bibleEvery pastor will have his or her different ways or recommendations on this subject.  It is always something I recommend for any couple looking to get married.  Pre-marriage counselling is for the young, old, and yes even if this is a second marriage or more.  Each situation is different and unique.

“Counselling can give you insights into where your particular relationship dynamics might be heading in the wrong direction.” ( Lynne Foote )

When I sit with a couple who have sought me out for pre-marriage counselling, there are three objectives I have. They are:

1. Understand the gospel/biblical perspective of marriage.

Just what does the gospel say about marriage?  Check out this post on “How Does the Gospel Inform us on Marriage?”

2. Understand your relationship dynamics – This involves two aspects:

Understanding yourself and your  partner and how the two interact

at the moment at Sunnyside Wesleyan Church (2014) we are using a program called Prepare-enrich.com

Teaching life and relationship skills

Taking time to reflect upon yourself and your relationship will only help generate a stronger relationship.

“Premarital therapy sessions will give you the opportunity to discuss things that do not come up in normal conversations, such as hurtful past experiences, sex, and expectations. ” ( Racheal Tasker)

3. Affirmation

This may seem strange but the process is there to help with discernment.   The intention is that the couple would get married.  However, this also provides a healthy environment for assessment of the commitment one is going to make.  Marriage is not just a declaration about current love, but a resolution for the future.

What has been your experience with pre-marriage counselling?  What questions do you have about it?

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